Just realised the last time I updated my blog was in July... It's such a quiet Sunday that I actually had the time to sit down and think of the past 6 months... And my thoughts kinda dived into this topic...
Getting your heart so severely broken may not be such a bad thing after all... Just makes you realised that your heart will never be that badly broken again... Or rather, you've gone through such tough times, you know you'll survive it even if history were to repeat itself...
It's strange how huge a person's ego can be when they get their heart broken. Not wanting the person who has broken your heart know how totally destroyed you are... By feeling that way, you start pretending that things are alright.. You start pretending that you are leading a happy life... Only to break down once in a while realising the fact that you are not over it... That you still feel the pain so badly it crushes your heart... But once you start feeling better, you tend to admit to your weaknesses... You begin to see things from a different perspective and you know by then that you've moved on...
It's not a competition of who finds another to fill up the gap in life when a relationship ends... It's never a competition. It's about 2 individuals living a life of their own... No longer travelling on the same path towards the same destination... No longer see things eye to eye.. It's about being happy for the other finding someone else who will be able to make them feel the happiest.... It's about you leading the life you want... It's about being able to be friends again when things are more settled... It's about putting things behind you... and most importantly, it's about forgiving that person and taking it as a lesson worth learning in life...
And when you've eventually moved on, don't make the mistake of having walls build around your heart or you will never be able to find that one person you would like to share the rest of your life with. Sometimes, it's a risk worth taking.... Sometimes, it's not... But never give up hope in finding that someone... It takes time... Sometimes a long time... Sometimes you get yourself hurt again in the process... And sometimes you end up hurting others but at the end of the day, keep telling yourself that it is still worth waiting for... Worth fighting for...
But until that person appears... Life should carry on the way it is... Nothing beats the feeling of believing that there's someone for everyone... And eventually when that happens, it will be really beautiful.....
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throughout the experiences you had, you have gain wisdom :)
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